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for 22 år siden 0 +0 / -0 1062

Hi Jayda. Welcome to the group. I can't offer you any help specific to NYC, but a friend of mine who was looking for a smiliar type of teacher went to interview some on her own before setttling on one in whom she felt confident. She chose a very calm older teacher with lots of teaching experience. Perhaps you might consider that route if nothing else comes up for you. -- Anne-Marie, Site Administrator

for 22 år siden 0 +0 / -0 1

Hi, I'm new to this site and very happy to have found it! I'm 29 years old, grew up in New York city and have always lived where there has been good public transport, so I never really needed to learn how to drive. I have been behind the wheel of a car a few times but always get so anxious that I never progress very far to feel comfortable and confident about driving. I need to learn because I will be moving somewhere where driving is a necessity. My question is how to find a driving school before I move (i.e. in New York) where there are instructors who will be understanding and sensitive to my needs and who might help me to overcome my fears while behind the wheel of a car? Does anyone have any suggestions? Is there some sort of list of driving schools which deal with driving phobias?

for 22 år siden 0 +0 / -0 1062

Hi Melissa. I hope no one was hurt. I guess if someone has been you would have said. Have you considered going through a licensed driving school to get practice and lessons? It would also help your insurance. I would suggest you consider this. Spouses have a way of saying 'Look out!' and scaring us, whereas driving instructors are calmer and would usually tell you precisely what to do to remain in control. There are instructors who teach people with anxiety. -- Anne-Marie, Site Administrator

for 22 år siden 0 +0 / -0 1

Hi m new to this forum but i am glad i found it. Basically i have never driven a car i am 25 and my husband has been driving me everywhere since we were married 6 yrs ago. i have practiced driving but completely freeze up when i do it and my husband is patient and a geat teacher but cannot relieve my fears and the panic i have ( i fear car accidents or hurting someone) in june i saw a therapist for the first time but they wanted to try me on meds for depression i took them for a few weeks and the made me feel like a zombie. well to make a long story short i told my husband today i would drive home from the grocery store and it was going well until i turned into our condos and my husband said watch out for this guy and i just freaked out and instead of hitting the breaks i hit the gas and almost hit the fire hydrant but did hit the tree. we were okay but i just buried my face in my hands and sobbed all the way home and really almost cant bear to even try this again. i really need help from someone who understands i dont want to give up on driving i really need to do this but now my worse fear came true that i had an accident becuse i got scared. i would appreciate your input. melissa :8o:

for 22 år siden 0 +0 / -0 2

Hello, I have had panics about driving for some years but it seems to happen on and off; earlier this year i drove two work colleagues about 80 miles up the motorway to a conference. As soon as I got there I started to panic and I couldn't get to sleep all night. I then had to ask one of my colleagues to drive my car back to work the next day. I hated myself. I now have to work out a way that allows me to drive as I often go to a lot of places. On Monday I will be going about 60 miles from home and should drive but I daren't otherwise I could end up stuck somewhere.

for 22 år siden 0 +0 / -0 19

Hi, It sound good. I actually have a tape that the therapist made for me of my fears. I was not able to continue therapy with her because of insurance issues. The tape she made was on the money in regards to my fears but it is very distressful to listen to. What is the purpose of listening to something like that? As you can probably tell I am not a fan of therapy. I probably would be happier to take a course on a closed field and practice what to do in a skid, tire blow out, etc. I just cannot find a place. Call me unusual... Michele

for 22 år siden 0 +0 / -0 1062

Hi, Michele. If visualizing is all you can do, then it is certainly worth a try. You could make time for yourself to visualize driving somewhere for 1/2 an hour or so at least a couple of times a week. In CBT you might be encouraged to push yourself a bit further. In CBT you might be asked to write a story describing your worst fear of what is going to happen. You would be asked to really go for it, describe the car, describe the day, the weather, the drive, and describe what you are afraid will happen in great detail. Make sure that the story has a beginning, middle and end. Then you would make a tape of the story and listen to the tape for, say, half an hour every day. While listening to the tape you might close your eyes and visualize what you are describing on the tape. At first listening to the tape would make you really really anxious. However, over time you might find yourself being less and less anxious after you had listened to the tape over and over again. You can certainly use the Panic Program to plan for this kind of expossure work and monitor your fear ratings over time. Anything you can do to increase your exposure to cars and driving would be good too. If you have access to a car on weekends try to challenege yourself to drive as much as you can. You can certainly make exposure plans even if you only have acces to car on weekends. How does this sound to you? -- Anne-Marie, Site Administrator

for 22 år siden 0 +0 / -0 19

Since I do not have access to a car everyday, I was thinking that visualzing driving to the train, to the store, etc. could help. As I mentioned, I have access to a car on the weekends only. Any suggestions? Michele

for 22 år siden 0 +0 / -0 29

Hi Michelle. Just my opinion here, but I would look at it as a success not a failure. Ten years ago when I went through my first panic attacks, avoidance and the like, I got to the point where I could drive but not with someone else. As long as I was by myself driving I was fine. Started out just 10 minutes here and there and eventually little by little when I wasn't even thinking about it anymore, I was able to do more. I kind of view it like your doc. As long as you are happy with the result, feel like you are functioning at a level you are happy/satisfied with, then how can that be a failure? I guess you have to ask yourself whether you still feel limited by the fear. Again, just my .2cents here. Take care.

for 22 år siden 0 +0 / -0 19

Hi, When is it okay to say that I have tried all types of therapy and driving is not for me? Is it a failure to give up? Is it a success to say I can drive to my family( 10 minutes) and drive to the train station( 10 minutes) to get on the train to work? My therapist said the answer is with me and I know this but what do you all think? Michele

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