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for 16 år siden 0 +0 / -0 456

Hi em,

at the low doses, seroquel is a 'safe' sedatif. no need to have it build up in the system and no dependance. But for me 12.5 mg (cut a pill in half) and I sleep the sleep of the bears -12 to 16 hours- with renovations going on and kids jumping all over!!!

I only use them to cut through the mood swings when I see i am going too far to either side...

At higher doses it keeps one is a more normal range of emotions.

And in many ways your husband is right. The parts of depression that are learned behaviors and the CBT program here help us to relearn are solutions that each and every one of us must accept and work on alone. It is all inside of us. Medication is a tool it is meant to smooth out the rough edges and let us have enough 'space in our skin' to be able to work through the issues. Meditations, Box/Relaxation Breathing, Yoga are other tools. One thing, there are a whole varity of medications out there. You husband needs to tell the doctor what the present ones are doing - exactly and what he is willing to accept and what he in not willing to accept. Draw the line in the sand!

EM,

I am glad you can find a quiet moment and release your frustrations and pain in the tub. It is a nice place to wash it all away.

for 16 år siden 0 +0 / -0 51

I can only reinforce what everyone else is saying about medication, but sure your doctor is fully involved before making any changes. As far as feeling "foggy" yes, I have gone thru that during the initial stages of takiing medication, as my body was getting accustomed to it, but generally it went away and besides that it normally takes 4 to 6 weeks for most medication to be fully effective. Sometimes when you take the medication can help. Mine makes me drowsy, so I take it at night and it helps me sleep. As far as the quick change in outlook, I went thru that as well. I think it is the change from doing something, anything, even if it was bad, to get us out of what we see as a hopeless situation. We amy not know where we are going now, but at least we are movingand that makes us feel much better about things. I would encourage him to continue treatment. We males do not like to be sick to begin with and mental illness even carries much more of a stigma of weakness. I know I pushed hard to be "cured" and get off of medication. No one told me at the time that after the first instance your risk of having a relapse is increased. I was off medication for 3 months when I ran into some more life events and crashed a year after the first episode. Not saying it will happen, just saying it is something to be aware of. Be sure to take of yourself too! Talk to someone besides us, counselor, clergy, someone to help you get thru. There are support groups out there for spouses as well. Sometimes it helps just to hear from someone who is going thru the same set of circumstances. Take care! you are in my prayers!

for 16 år siden 0 +0 / -0 1044

I will repeat Mom of 3's advice because it is SO important. He should not stop taking any medication without consulting with the physician. Medications often times have to be tapered off and if he quits taking them suddenly may cause serious adverse reactions. Definitely consult a physician! Fog from medication and depression - could be either/or/both.

Crying in the bathtub is okay.

Em, so glad to hear the update. Again, take care of you....I picture the bunny slippers and think, wow, I need a pair of those...don't forget them when you get out of the bathtub!

for 16 år siden 0 +0 / -0 3043

Hi Em,

Just read your post and I want to say that your husband is extremely lucky to have you in his corner. You are extremely supportive and that can only help him. Just take care that you don't burn out, so be good to you.

Your husband shouldn't stop anything without the doctor's consent. He had a very bad episode and these drugs typically take time to work effectively. His improvement is likely more from his own efforts right now, but relapses can happen. Talk to the doctor to see if one or more could be tapered or discontinued given his symptoms. He is under a lot of stress still with the new job. That can make a "fog" feeling too.

Keep encouraging him to talk to his doctor about these things, there's no reason he shouldn't ask questions.

Keep us posted.

for 16 år siden 0 +0 / -0 1693

em,

Not too sure about the medication. Has he talked to his physician?

Members, any ideas?

Breanne, Bilingual Health Educator

for 16 år siden 0 +0 / -0 11

checking back in! Nothing is great! but everything is good!

He went for his interview, got the job, got his toolbox delivered, transfered the registration from broken truck to car, fixed the flat tire, charged the battery, and had car inspected! (of course it failed inspection but what do you expect...) He did all that yesterday! He wasn't happy about any of it but he did it!

Last night was tense, he was nervous and anxious and went to bed at 8:00, admittedly to think and worry. This morning he woke up a 3:00 am, barely spoke, barely looked in my direction, but I noticed he kept doing his relaxing breaths! (we have been working on that) He was deep inside his own head, but held himself together and went to work for the first time in three months. I was more nervous than a mother sending her child off on their first day of school.

He made it through the day! The job sucks, its not enough money, the place is a dump, the equipment is old and crappy, he had a hard time concentrating, figures he is going to get fired because he isn't fast enough, he hates how his medication makes him feel, he is the oldest one there, but hey what do you want he is depressed. When I called him on his negative attitude he smiled and laughed a little and come up with a few positive tid bits for me. Like it isn't really that bad but he does not want to admit it. He is adorable! I am so proud of him.

Visiting this site is one of the things I am doing for me. I also cry in the bathtub, what's up with that? I thought it was only me. I also have two little maltese dogs, they make me smile all the time!

And if you can stand it I have one more good thing to report! NO SNOW, just some freezing rain!

Medication question: He has been taking Seroquel for two weeks, Celexa for 10 days and took Risperdal 4 mg for three days while he was in the hospital, 2 mg on his first day home but stopped taking it. Does the medication work that fast? Or has he somehow returned to his baseline on his own? Like I said he seemed to improve in the ER without any medication. He said that the one thing that he learned from being in the hospital was that no one else is going to fix him, that his strength comes from inside. He keeps saying that he does not want to keep taking the medication. He says he feels like he is in a fog, but I think the fog could be caused by the stress and depression rather than the medication. Any insight?

for 16 år siden 0 +0 / -0 51

Glad to hear that things are going better for you, Em. Will keep you and your family in my prayers.

for 16 år siden 0 +0 / -0 456

Em,

now that you know what the shoes are like. Take them off! They don't well!

I suggest a good pair of comfortable wakers to get you to all those places that just about to close and you really need that one thing more on special. Or a pair of runners, to keep up with everything. With winter coming up a good pair of solid warm boots and those spikes we pull over them ... because moms are prepared for everthing!

And a good pair of bunny slippers. At the end of the day take a few moments for you - even if it is to cry it all out in the bath tub. Like you said, you see why your husband got into trouble; allow yourself some releases and rest. Allow yourself to make mistakes.

for 16 år siden 0 +0 / -0 955

em,

Thank you for the update!

What have you been doing for yourself during these difficult times? It is important to allow yourself moments alone where you are able to reflect on what has been happening.

Continue to keep us posted on how you are doing. We are here for you!

Sarah, Health Educator

for 16 år siden 0 +0 / -0 1044

Em,

I am so glad that things seem to be going okay. I know your anxiety must be running high re: work, financial, his potential for relapse. I wish we had cut and dry answers for you but that is not the nature of the beast.

I know my recent events have increased my own anxiety regarding how they will effect my depression, will I continue on my slow bu steady pace, slide back a notch or two, or fall way back. I know you must have this anxiety too, regarding your husband. I would recommend not projecting into the future, but dealing with what life presents, one day at a time. It may seem unrealistic and in terms of some things, it is, however, I am referring to the depression and its effects on today.

The program that I am referring to in the US is Vocational Rehabilitation, some states refer to it as habilitation or may have another name. It can/will assist a person to obtain employment that takes into account the issues related to not only your husband's depression but his neck issues as well.

It is great that you see the need to change roles and that this may help your husband. It is awesome that you are willing to make this change. You seem to be on top of things. Don't let that anxiety get you down or overload yourself.

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