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for 13 år siden 0 +0 / -0 6252

Guy.

Good. You can see we care by our concern. Your doing great so I won't comment on it again.

I do think you are doing the right thing.

Here for you,

Davit.

for 13 år siden 0 +0 / -0 89

Davit, Hugs,

Yep, when I sleep I do dream so I should be getting some REM sleep. Usually to bed about 10:30 or 11 and up around 6:30, but I wake up several times in between with mini-panics.

Food wise, I've been making sure I drink a protein shake in the morning with the Greens powder stuff and some sort of fiber in it. At first coffee break, I have a yogurt, then lunch is a Michelina's type meal with a fruit cup and an orange. Supper is usually pretty light too, but I try to make about half of it vegetables. Next pay, I'll buy a case of V8. I love it and 3 servings of veggies per can. I agree, that rapid a loss isn't the healthy way to do it. But since it's gone, I'll keep it off in a healthy manner with proper nutrition and physical activity. I was 300 pounds going into this transition, and now I'm between 270-275. With my height and build, 220 or so would be ideal, but that's not at the forefront of my mind. I'll keep the portions normal and be healthy.

Now that the house is in good shape for showing, I'll work on my studies and get out walking and visiting some. That'll be good for the spirits too!

I like today's quote about, "If you want something bad enough, you'll find a way to make it happen." Well, my sweetie and I will make it happen. She's doing well and has her own challenges. She cries every time she sees the house and sometimes wonders if we're doing the right thing. But then we review what our life goals together are and we both feel better and like we are accomplishing something. We look at gas prices and food prices and realize that getting out from under a mortgage is the best thing we can possibly do, no matter how challenging the process is.

Thank you all.

for 13 år siden 0 +0 / -0 6252

Guy.

Sleep is of no value unless you get at least three hours in a row. You must get REM sleep all else only rests the muscles it does not restore. I hope you can slow down a bit now before you burn out. If I remember rightly you have room to lose some weight but losing it too fast will not be good for you. You will over work your liver converting fat back into something your body can use. It also is unbalanced. Could you at least supplement with Boost or Ensure to make sure you still get the vitamins and minerals you need. Losing the weight is good for self esteem but fatigue will bring on the anxiety. I again am going to preach patience which I have little of since I have caught myself counting the days.

You do sound good and you sound like you have a handle on it. It will happen.

Here for you,

Davit.

for 13 år siden 0 +0 / -0 4027

Guy,

As part of self-care, get more restorative sleep. Unless you're napping during the day, or meditating, sleep deprivation will harm you, and predispose you to safety issues, since you're in the workplace, and driving. Also, the rapid weight loss is a concern too. If you want professional weight loss, start with the sister site, under the toolbar on the forum website.

Think about your future spouse, and children, if you can't think about taking care of yourself.

I've had to graph my sleep, and stick to it, otherwise things like memory will decline, as well as attention while driving, etc.

for 13 år siden 0 +0 / -0 89

Hey Tiana, Davit,

Looking back at that post I suspect you are both correct that fatigue had set in. As you know, I've been going about 18-20 hours a day between work and getting the house ready for the market. I've also lost almost 30 pounds since my sweetie left - partly due to anxiety amping up my nervous system, partly due to working so hard and long, partly due to having a hard time eating anything substantial due to the physical symptoms.

I am eating better, but also choosing to use this weight loss as a jump start to getting to healthy weight. Making a negative a positive. Sleep is tough but I try to get to bed a decent time and get up at the same time every day so a pattern is there. The house is looking darn good and is listed so I can slow down a bit there for awhile.

I can definitely say that the only time the anxiety almost complete subsides is when I'm on Skype with my sweetie. Although tonight I had my Mason's lodge night and that was good too. Being around friends really helps. That's why I like coming to the forum, even when I'm doing well. Knowing there are people just like me that are surviving helps. Even more so, knowing there are people like me that can still help other people while tackling their own challenges is very inspiring. Seeing how many advisors there are that really care helps reaffirm my faith in humanity as well.

Thanks gang! Now I'm off to bed.

for 13 år siden 0 +0 / -0 653

Hi Guy,

You continue to challenge your thoughts and that is great! It will get easier, and sometimes it will be harder, as mentioned, depending on what is happening with you at a particular time. Keep posting, let us know how we can help.

Tiana, Health Educator

for 13 år siden 0 +0 / -0 659

Hi Guy.

I think Davit may have hit on it here..It could be fatigue letting the negative thoughts in..May be you and your Sweetie could get on the phone tomorrow and start talking about and planning how you are going to celebrate when you are all together again..This could be a positive thought and image you could all keep in your minds while you are waiting to be together again..

Just a thought...

Red..

for 13 år siden 0 +0 / -0 6252

Guy,

Could it be just plain old fatigue opening you to negative thoughts. I think you handled it well.

You know what you want and you know you are going to get it, but being tired opens you to all kinds of unwanted thought. What ifs, and why bothers, being the worst. Keep posting, writing about it will help you to believe the positive and fight the negative. We are listening and on your side.

Here for you,

Davit.

for 13 år siden 0 +0 / -0 89

An ongoing anxiety attack today starting at about 3 p.m. I don't know what triggered it. Seemed like an otherwise good day with no real negative thoughts or circumstances. Then the symptoms started - you know them well. Heart racing, hard time breathing, tingling feeling in limbs and such, dizziness, etc.

I tried to regulate my breathing, that helped a little. I tried to isolate what might be causing this - I couldn't identify anything and that seemed to make it worse. So, I just kept plugging away at my day, just get through it. I got home and talked to my sweetie on Skype. That seemed to help a fair bit. Now I'm guessing the cause was just plain old missing the woman I love and fearing that I won't get down there to be with her and live our life.

It will happen, I tell myself. One way or another, it will happen. It just has to happen. We have a plan and I'm working on it. The house has only been listed 6 days. Spring is the best time to sell. It will happen. It will happen.

I keep telling myself this and sometimes I believe it for a few minutes. Then I relapse. I just keep going with questioning just how true is the thought that I might not make it there. It is NOT a fact that I won't make it there. I will sell this house and make it to my sweetie. We will have the life we planned on and dreamed of. All I can do is keep telling myself this. It will get better right? It did before, it will again. Just keep on doing what works.

for 13 år siden 0 +0 / -0 659

Guys,

I'll second that idea!!!

Red.

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