Thank you Northern Star,
We definitely need to see a Counsellor or seriously talk -- but my husband is not one for counselling...I guess men have a hard time accepting that...
I know that the first year of marriage is the most difficult -- but I guess I did not have realistic expectations and now reality has set in...
We will definitely have to compromise otherwise I will go 'crazy' :-)
Thank you and you take care,
B
Hi B,
I can only imagine what you are going through.... living with my in-laws would drive me insane within 24 hours.... the good thing is that no one but my in-laws can fit in the house (too much Avon ****... not to mention the newspapers from the 70s).
The good thing is that when you return home you will have to visit and STAY over at friends and family (the people that love you and will do anything for you). I do definitely think that you will have to arrange other living arrangements (as soon as you guys get settled... start your carrers and move out).
Don't you hate that the honeymoon phase is over (you're not alone on that one). I thought it was suppose to last forever.
All kidding aside, your fears are real and I wish I could say that you are just worrying for nothing. However, marriage should only be between two humans and God, no other interference. Living with your in-laws only complicates things.
Can you compromise? Can you promise your husband to stop hassling him about it until you guys get established? Can you arrange with him now that you will move out as soon as you guys can afford to?
I hate to say it but I do think that you guys will have to seek counselling together when you get back. I know it is not an easy thing for husbands (I have been told by my own husband that MEN don't like counselling).
Sweety, hang in there. There is no point in you worrying about what is to come. You knew that it was coming. Please work on a compromise with your husband... a little give and take. Would he consider staying at your parents for a while? Can you explain to him that you need your mom's help.
I have to go.... talk to you really soon.
Hang in there. I will pray for both of us.
Thank you Khris!!
I just feel so 'powerless' -- I feel like all the decisions are being made and I am not asked how I feel about them...My husband knows of my fears of moving in with the 'in-laws' but thinks that I am just being irrational and 'immature' :-(
Oh well...we will see how it goes....
Thank you...and an online chatroom would be great....:-)
Take care,
B
Now is a really good time to talk to someone and get everything you need. Living with others is already stressful but when it is with your in/laws...good grief! I know, I spent almost 2 years living with my mom before we bought this house.
Just always feel free to come here and vent away okay??!! :)
Just had an awful night....same thing with the husband...no matter how much I do...it isn't enough...I have no motivation to do anything...I used to love doing so many things but nowadays it is a struggle...
My anxiety levels are high the past few weeks...and I am afraid that I will have a panic attack...In a few weeks we will be moving in with my in-laws, and I am afraid of how it will be like...
I am just getting by....
Feeling hopeless...
