Hi Toni, If your husband has had a chance to check out some of the tools available on the site, it may help him with his upcoming doctor's appointment. For example he can take the Anxiety Test and print out the results to take to his doctor. Members have said in the past that this was a very helpful starting point when it came to seeking medical assistance. Going with him to the appointment is an option too. This way you can provide support to help him discuss his concerns and explain to the doctor how it is affecting your family. Casey _________________________________ The Panic Center Support Team

Hi Casey, Thank you for your welcome and thank you so much for your information. I have taken many of those depression tests over the years. I already know I suffer from it. Was the doctor who recognized it first when I went to him back when the now teens were little. And I have been on medication ever since. Seems I cannot ween myself from it or the symptoms return. I've been diagnosed as having a chemical inbalance. The first time it cropped up was when I hit a valley in my life when my oldest one was also little. I was divorced at that time. I refused to take medication and fought my way back into the world. Things were fine for years. It came back with a venegance when I realized I felt trapped with two more children and a husband who never wanted to go anywhere, or support my wanting to go out with the kids and do things. Has been this way all their lives. So, thanks Casey, I know I suffer from depression. And I know that going to the grocery store or to run errands or to my job is not "getting out of the house". My husband laughs when he refers to this. It would just help if my husband would accompany me on ANY trip out of the house. He will, on rare occasion, go with me to the store. He hunts and fishes and his idea of getting out of the house and doing something together is to go hunting or fishing with him, which I have done, for it's better than nothing. Like I said, we can try and get him to go somewhere, like this weekend that he company sends them away every year once a year. So it's a one time a year opportunity and we, as his family pay for it. We had to wait for him on Friday night to go through his ritual in the bathroom as always. (he can sit there for a couple of hours and all of a sudden needs to use the bathroom when we announce it's time to go, we're ready) I had to drive all weekend, cause he didn't feel good. The kids and I went out and did things alone, as always. He laid around in the hotel room all weekend. He does this anytime we have made plans to go anywhere. It's like he gets himself worked up so much, he's phyically ill. However, he refuses to see the pattern. I feel like I cannot take it anymore. His kids need to see a complete turn around. They need each other and not this gian

Hi everybody, I would like to suggest a tip regarding the throat tension, drink a big glass of fresh water it helps a lot and also the best thing is to try toconsentrate on doing something else I know it is hard but believe it it really work. I would like to ask if any one is experiencing a feeling of tension in the face I feel like my eye is pulling from one side and I feel like my eyes are tired and heavy. does it sound familiar and how can it be relieved?? also does anyone feel like having something on the head like a worm and tickling on the forehead and know it is Stuuuupid but????

Hi Toni, Welcome to the site and thank you for sharing your story here with us. You will see that there is lots of information and support available here from fellow members who know what it is like to experience feelings of panic and anxiety. You could suggest for your husband to have a look at some of the tools available on the site such as our Panic Program. You mentioned depression in your post. The Panic Center also has a sister site called the "The Depression Center". You can visit this site at www.depressioncenter.net. Here you will find our Depression Test. This test is not a diagnostic tool and is not a replacement or substitute for a physician's advice. The purpose of these tests is to prepare you with information that you can present to your physician. When you're finished the test, you can either print your Final Report or email it directly to your doctor. Casey ________________________________ The Panic Center Support Team

Hi everyone. NEWBIE here to group. Support is very much needed. I understand about panic disorders and anxiety attacks. I've been a victim for YEARS. However, it is not me that suffers from it. It's my husband. I very much want him to admit that he has a problem. He is in denial big time. We have been married 18 years this summer. Our children are teens and will both be graduated in a couple of years. They too have been victims. We cannot go ANYwhere and have my husband accompany us. He usually stays home. He will go out. He does carpentry work on the side in addition to his regular job. He will (when he prompts it or doesn't have time to think about it) go to get pizza or to a store. Otherwise, anywhere else we are supposed to go, we either leave him home or sit and wait for him to use the bathroom or give him time to deal with his nausea. He was diagnosed some years ago with IBS. However, I wonder. Is it really IBS or anxiety. I feel he gets himself all worked up and causes the nausea, gas, bowel problems. His regular job started with a handful of people and has grown to hundreds and hundreds. He can come home with an attack and I wonder what caused it from work. All I know is our children have grown up with a father who never takes or goes anywhere with them. When he does, we have to come right back home again. It NEVER fails, he does this every time and CANNOT see a connection. How can I get him to see it and for us to go together to doctor for help for I am willing to be in full support. (how else would I have been so patient for so long? : ) I started suffering from major depression when the kids were little and now think it is lack of his support for our family to take them places, even school functions etc. I can feel so alone and if I get out of the house, I am a widow (like church) everywhere I go and see other couples always together enjoying each other's company. I still battle depression and really feel that if I can fight so can he. We can bank on him having stomach problems everytime we have plans. EVERYtime. Is there hope for us? THANK YOU!!!

I just wanted to say I'm still suffereing from this throat tension and its starting to get me down. I can feel myself holdin my throat tight, then I relax it but I soon find myself pulling it tight again. Although all the replies have helped me, I just wondered if anyone does also suffer from this throat tension, I'm starting to envisage throat cancer or something.

Thanks or all your replies! Its put my mind at rest. Its really annoying all these stupid little symptoms you can get! I guess its like throat tension and its hard to get rid of! Its good to know your not alone though!!

Same thing here. Sometimes I feel like my throat is closing up and i can't breathe (although I can!) or i can not swallow (although i can!) I just keep passing positive thoughts over and over again. I say "I feel like I can not swallow...but I know I can" same thing with breathing.

Hi-I have always had trouble with jaw tension when I get anxious or upset but when my anxiety problems got worse again in October, a lot of my problem has been with my throat. Sometimes its so dry that it feels like I can't swallow and then I get a lump sensation. At times it feels like its not joined together right and like the muscles are going to knot up and I get afraid that I won't be able to breathe. I get afraid to eat foods that might get stuck or things too hot or cold. I can feel it worse when I lay down. Sometimes it feels like it closes up for a second or two and then I get really panicky. This fear has taken over where I used to worry about my palpitations and having a heart attack more. I am 43 and maybe some perimenopause symptoms are at work here. I keep room temp. water with me in the car and at work which helps some. I wish everyone the best and I am so glad I found this site.

No, I feel like that about once a day too. I don't know what it is. It doesn't seem to come at a time when I feel I am stressed or anxious. All of a sudden it feels like a can't swallow, but I can. It last for about 2 hours then I either ignore it, or it goes away. It's concerning, but I keep forgetting to ask the Dr. Anyway, she'd just say it's anxiety. Sorry I can't help, but I know how you feel. Let me know if you get any answers. I know the "sensation of chocking" is an anxiety symptom. Why it lasts to long, I don't know.