redface, I read your post, and the first thing that came to mind to me was that inviting people over, or going out with people is exhausting for those of us not comfortable in social settings. you said that you want to get together with others once a week. I know for myself that this would be a huge goal. It may be perfectly suiting for you, but if not, do not give up hope. You may be comfortable, and feel more fullfilled if you aim at getting together with others a couple times a month, and stepping it up from there if you feel things are going well and you would like to. I don't know you, but I that meeting once a week for many people with social difficulties may be overwhelming, especially in the beginning. Good luck to you!!! :) I hope i didn't sound discouraging, because that's not the message i was trying to get across!
deedles