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for 22 år siden 0 39 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Thanks whisper, I hope I have a blast too! Although I am still going through my ups and downs, yesterday for instance, I challenged myself to visit a friend, I drove by myself and then spent about 5 hours there, the thing is though I have recently developed a phobia of being in a house or unit alone with someone of the oposite sex, I just feel on guard and panicky, suspicious, etc, I get really bizzare thoughts when I'm feeling so anxious and vounerable, like "what if he put something in my drink?" I knew this when I went, so I tried really hard to be there, I was anxious the whole time, he didn't know it and I didn't panic but when I got home I thought.... "I can never go away if I feel like this, how will I do it?, etc!" But I just spent the rest of the evening relaxing and today, I don't feel anxious for the first time in a long time, just abit anxious at the fact that I'm not experiencing any anxiety today, totally weird. So I'm really hoping I have more days like today and less like the day before. Bye for now. Angela :)
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Hi Angela. I'm wondering since you said that your boyfriend has been so good about helping you through anxious moments the past three years by talking you through them, breathing with you, etc. if it might be possible for him to tape a relaxation type tape for you to take along with his voice. Maybe just hearing his voice talking to you might be reassuring and familiar if you needed it. And by the way, wow to you on your progress and courage. Good luck and have a blast!!!!!!!!!
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Thanks very much for those tips, I was lying in bed thinking that I should get a walkman so I can listen to some relaxing music, or one of those muscle relaxation techniques tapes, I might have to look around for one over the next week. As for my boyfriend taking me on a long drive, we have driven long distance many times and he works really hard so I couldn't ask that of him. He also goes on trips for work and I'm at home alone now and then so I'm not worried about being away from him so much as me going somewhere without him. We have had many trips together throughout my anxiety and he is always there, holding me or comforting me and if I'm anxious and can't go out he'll wait until I've relaxed enough to make another effort or do some breathing with me and encourge and congratulate me when I do things. But I've relied on this heaviy, I now reolise that he has been some what a source of security for me when we have travelled together... so unlike the old me who use to travel by myself all the time! That's why this trip is soooooo important to me! I know its going to be hard without him there cause I'll be on my own. And I'll need to be able to cope on my own. I don't think I am dependant on him when I am in my own home or familiar area cause I do so many things on my own, we virtually live separate lives so I don't want to analyse it too much but it is definatly something that I'll be keeping track of, my patterns that is. Any other relaxing or coping techniques that have been helpful would be appreciated! Angela :)
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Angela, I'm firmly believe that if it is something you really want to do you'll do it without a problem. A couple of years ago I wanted to go on this trip to Washington D.C. It was a school trip from college and being a poli sci major you can imagine how much it meant to me. I prepared for months in advance and I even saw a hypnotist about it. He had me imagine I was packing and he thought me how to relax, then I imagined I was riding in the car to the bus meet and same thing, etc. I took the trip and did not have an attack the entire time I was there! I took my pills with me and never touched them. I too was very dependent on my husband at the time and guess what? I had an attack as soon as I got in the car with him to get home from the bus. Makes you wonder huh? Anyway, you have a gret trip! We'll be cheering for you! ioana
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Hi Angela! I'm giving you a blue ribbon for all the work you've been doing on getting well. It's really excellent. Before your trip, perhaps your boyfriend can take you for a drive a little distance to test the waters. I would suggest you make a little inventory to see what kinds of things might bring on anxiety. For instance, if being away from your boyfriend might make you anxious, perhaps you can try not seeing him for 24 hours. Another suggestion is to bring a walkman with a relaxing tape, so you can have some 'quiet time' in the car should you need it. Being in a car with friends can be very stimulating, maybe noisy too at some moments, and if you find yourself getting anxious, you could take a few minutes for some 'shuteye' with your walkman on until you felt calmer. (It sounds like so much fun, and something I've been promising my friends I'd do too) Enjoy yourself and have a wonderful trip. Let us know how it goes. -- Anne-Marie, Site Administrator
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Hi there, Just wanting to know if you can give me some tips and advice, I've been doing heaps of exposure and come a long way from a week ago, that being not able to leave the house. I've made it the supermarket in quite times, busy times, did some long driving, and made it to the mall on several occasions waiting inline with heaps of people. Yes its been tough but I made it. Now in 8 days from today, I have been planning a goddess adventure, that is planning to go travelling with two girlfriends without my boyfriend who I have relied on heavily for support for the last 3 year years. I haven't travelled alone or with friends for about 8 years, so this trip is going to be a huge exciting challenge for me! Before my generalised anxiety, agoraphobia and phobias I use to travel on my own all the time but its been such a long time that the memories that exist without anxiety are abit hard to remember, I am going to try and recapture these memories on this trip. I am not 100% I wouldn't even say I was 60% but its something I really want to do, we will be an 18 hour drive away from where I live now, we're doing the trip over 12-16 days stopping and staying at many locations. I'm trying to plan this holiday well so I am prepared for anything that may happen. I have started medication Effexor-XR 11 days ago and that seems to be giving me alot more energy and helping with my level of mood, but as for the anxiety its still there, nothing exposure won't cure though... (I hope?!?) I'm also taking along some Xanax and Valium just incase. I would appreciate any advice or tips or experiences anyone is willing to share with me. I figure if I can do this than my level of confidence about myself will improve which would overall help me get my life back. Thanking you in advance, Angela :)

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