Hi, Debra,
That makes a lot of sense to me. I was there once. Couldn't get out of it, so I thought.
These sub-personalities are examples of negative self-talk.
The WORRIER is a very strong presentce and can promote anxiety, while the VICTIM feels hopeless and helpless. This combination promotes depression, and should be questioned at all times.
If you can ask yourself "Is this always true?", "What is the evidence for this?", "has this been true in the past?","What is the very worst that might happen?", "Am I looking at the whole picture?" and things like this, then for sure you will be able to answer these questions truthfully and see for yourself you are caught up in a circle of self-defeating thoughts. The next thing to do, is take each negative thought, and counter it with a positive one. It should be done as it is happening, each and every time.
Do not allow your mind to wander in this fashion, and remember that the mind rules the body. It is a very obedient servant to the mind, and will do exactly what you tell it to do.
Gather up all your strength, and battle each thought, for you will see the light of day..immediate results...if you stick to this method.
When your 'WORRIOR' says " What if....", you say "So what,' 'I can handle this," and the axniety may still be there as you are doing this, but you have handled it thus far..so a little longer isn't going to kill you. "So what." is my favorite of all the things I say to myself, and I seem to feel at ease right away.
Your 'VICTIM" will take a little time to heal, as it is very vulnerable, and is the most insecure of all of these parts of us. Some people feel that vicimization is the ruination of this generation of kids, as they say to themselves, "Poor me, I am a victim of......." whatever they are associating with. I was raped, and for sure I was the victim, but I no longer see myself that way. No more victim, no target on my back..I am strong, and do not allow this behavior from others. Nor do I accept this perception of myself, from myself. I visualize myself as a strong and competent person, who if I have to, am able to keep undesirables away from me. Being disabled makes people vulnerable, and sometimes they get tangled in the web of the victim. I have worked hard to get where I a
