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for 16 år siden 0 +0 / -0 11

Thanks for all your support, concern and advice. I am trying to take care of myself, thank you. It has been easier to do that while he is in the hospital. My cat died last night, man when it rains it pours. I spoke with him earlier and he said the on-call MD said he would probably go home tomorrow. I have mixed feelings, I am so glad he is coming home, I just hope he is coming home healthier. He seemed better on Saturday, he had a hard time sleeping and was tired today, but he seemed kind of sad, I know he is bored too. The anxiety and aggitation is the thing I am most worried about and that seems to be MUCH better. I just hope it dosen't return as soon as the stress of finding a job returns when he comes home. I was relieved that he realizes (or is able to admit) that what happened was totally out of control. he had been minimizing the incident and saying he wouldn't have really killed himself.

I have to admit I am less than thrilled with the place he is at. there was only one meeting on Saturday and that was an AA meeting, and nothing at all today. He attended two groups on Friday (one was a basket making class). The weekend on-call MD spends five minutes or less with each patient on the weekend and the nurses and councelors are basically babysitters. I guess the only goal is to keep him safe until the medications kick in. Is that right?

The stress he is under is real, will the depression lift before the stress gets less intense?

for 16 år siden 0 +0 / -0 456

hi em.

I have been busy with a houseful of sick people ... but took the nite off (after taking care of my husband cracked skull

a silly accident).

Depression is often a sensitivity to stress. Some become sad, some angry, and some anxious. That is why the good and bad events of our lives cause problems because the body does not see the difference between bad and good stresses. The loss of a job, a wedding, a snow storm can be triggers.

You really had a a frightening experience for several months. Living with someone who was so miserable and who wanted to be his old self, not this sick person. Sharing your home and your live with this new person who really did not want to admit to having this misunderstood illness! You were lucky to have found such a good crisis worker! Someone who your husband was able to open up to and release his tension with!!!

Being at the hospital is boring and I will admit that many will do anything to be released from the hospital. But, the doctors have been seing the best of the the liers (the truely psycotic who believe the lies) and know when a person is ready to go home!!! em, they will allow your husband the time he needs to recover a bit from the "damage" the stress did to him at his original choc. When he comes home there will be good days and bad days ... like with everyone else. But your husband will need to learn to change certain ways of thinking. If his depression was truely all linked to his job loss he might have gotten into negative thought spiral similar to... I am a worthless husband who sits here all day alike a lazy a**h*** and so on. Or perhaps his thinking patterns start with the reasons with the original loss of the job...

***Regardless!!! that is between him and his therapist!!!***

Your husband will have to learn to be a lot more permissive and supportive of himself. he will have to become his own best friend! he will have to learn he has an illness and allow himself the time to heal. And in the future recognise that severe stressors can affect him so he needs to be very open with his doctor. Not an easy thing for a man!

And with all this what is your story em?

for 16 år siden 0 +0 / -0 955

em,

Thank you for sharing your story and support with us. There are many people within this support group that share the same questions and concerns as you.  We are all a group of individuals who support each other.

If you look to the left of the screen under "TOOLS" you will find many supportive tests.  These tests are not diagnostic tools and are not a replacement or substitute for a physician's advice. The purpose of these tests is to prepare you with information that you can present to your physician. When you're finished the test, you can either print your Final Report or email it directly to your doctor.

We also have developed a Depression Program.  This program is 12-weeks and involves the tools mentioned above.  Each session is based on the previous session, so we strongly advise that you work slowly through the program and not jump ahead.

These tests may or may not be for you but they are "free".  If you have any question or concerns with our “TOOLS”, you can contact us at support@depressioncenter.net.  We are the Support Specialist for The Depression Center and are open to any questions or concerns you may have.

You have already received a lot of great advice from other members here. In terms of single episode major depression, some people develop symptoms without any real life crisis while other traumatic events can onset the depression. The doctor may have diagnosed it as single episode because there was only evidence of one episode and not accounted for by any other disorder. The questions you pose about the depression wearing off and his stable condition are best answered by his doctor. Perhaps write down these questions and take them with you the next time you visit him at the hospital.

Please continue to post and let us know how you are your husband are managing. We are here for you!

Sarah, Health Educator

for 16 år siden 0 +0 / -0 201

hi em - that must have been horrifying for you! sounds like a manic episode or post traumatic stress disorder due to the loss of his job. goofy is so right, make sure there is a plan in place and YOU have someone to call right away if you have to. has he done this kind of thing before? tell the doctors everything you know, cause he probably will not. hang in there em, you're in crisis mode and need to sleep, eat, and be as calm as you can be to get through this as easily as possible. not that any of this is easy. we know, my grandpa in the throes of alzheimers used to run out of his house naked into the road. our brains are funny, squishy weird things sometimes and they run approx 150lbs of muscle and bone around. it's scary, sometimes i have this recurring dream that we are all zombies in a way, being controlled - not by voodoo but our own brains!

for 16 år siden 0 +0 / -0 3043

Hi em

I think Ralph and Goofy summed up everything nicely. Your husband needs the help he is getting where he is and should remain until he can stabilize, health care professionals should determine when he leaves. Your story is too scary, it was not only his life that was in danger but yours and everyone on the road with you at the time. Ralph is correct about how his attempt is a cry for help and now he needs to get some. It will not be easy for him to confront some of the issues that he must to really get better, but he will need to do so. Medication may well be something he needs to continue for at least a while. I think Ralph summed up his change in focus but there may also be denial about how bad his situation is mixed in there. Even when I begin to consider suicide I begin to feel gulity and try to make myself believe that I "could never". He probably doesn't really know how he feels at this point, but going home means returning to the only comfort zone he has.

Goofy is correct that you need support yourself. You have been through quite a bit of trauma just with this latest episode

and you need to care for yourself. Your husband is so very fortunate to have a wife who loves him and would go through all of this with him. Even more so, here you are seeking answers for him. Your husband needs your support right now, but you will need to keep your strength up to do so. It means taking care of yourself first. I don't know if you suffer from depression yourself but those of us who do often wear ourselves down with taking care of others first and leaving no care for ourselves. This just adds to our depression and causes a further downward spiral. This is why we remind each other to take care of ourselves, we know that must happen to truly care for the others around us.

Please let us know how you and your husband are doing. You both are in my thoughts and prayers.

for 16 år siden 0 +0 / -0 1044

em, welcome to the forums, glad that you are here, but wish you didn't need to be here!

I don't have much to offer in terms of shared experiences. What Ralph said makes sense. He probably felt a lot of relief being where he needs to be. But just like anyone who goes to the hospital - wants to be home.

It doesn't say where you are from, but usually they will stabilize someone on medication before they return them home. Hopefully, that will happen there. It is also very common for some of us to think "we are all better now" and don't need our medication. That is more than likely not the case. The medications are making us better now.

Another thing to look for from the hospital is a good discharge plan. It should include all the recommendations by the psychiatrist at the facility for follow-up once he gets home. Just like anytime you'd leave a hospital. Take X medication, see the psychiatrist, Dr. XXX for follow up in X number of weeks, basically a plan of action. Some places have partial hospitalization programs. That is where a person is home part of the day and attends a program part of the day. I don't know what resources are available where you live. I would talk to the hospital staff, social worker if there is one, and make sure there is a comprehensive discharge summary.

My last opinion - take care of you! If you don't take care of you, then you can't be there for your husband! You may need to seek professional assistance to better help you deal with issues that present themselves in the relationship, things you just went through to get him to the hospital, etc. Take care of YOU!

for 16 år siden 0 +0 / -0 51

em, I can tell you somethings from personal experience. I don't know how closely they will relate. I went thru a simliar episode to your husbands. At the hospital, some of my focus returned, because it was a place I did not want to be. When I got to the hospital my main focus shifted from the problems I was having to concentrating on doing whatever I had to do to get home. I will admit that i did recognize that I needed help then and did honestly make a effort to be truthful in the group and individual counseling sessions, but I can tell you, if they had told me that I had to stand on my head and bark like a dog, I would have done it to get out of there. I know the people are there to help you,but when I was there the only thing I could think of was how much I wanted to go home. Now I can't say if that is the reason you see such a drastic change or not, it's just my personal experience from being there.I will keep you both in my prayers.

for 16 år siden 0 +0 / -0 11

Thanks for replying! I guess I will have to be patient and trust that things will improve. Trust the professionals will do their job, that they will know when he is better.

for 16 år siden 0 +0 / -0 85

Hi em

You seem to have been through a rough time! I don't know what I would have done under the same circumstances. This is a great place for advice and often people can relate to what you are going through. I honestly don't think there is a quick fix for that kind of depression, especially if there was a suicide attempt. My mother also attempted suicide numerous times and sometimes she'd get up the next day and carry on like nothing happened, being her normal self. But we always waited for the next episode. I am afraid I am not really the one to give you advice, but I am thinking of you and there is always support here. Hang in there.....

for 16 år siden 0 +0 / -0 11

I am here looking for answers, support, advice, help! My husband lost his job three months ago and has had a "nervous breakdown". he has been inconsistantly taking antidepressants and recently started seroquel. He doesn't think he needs medication, just a job. He thinks it is stress not depression. EVERY day has been torture! By the time I come home from work he looks like he has been on a battlefield, fighting for his life. His depression is more anxious than boo-hoo I'm sad. I knew this was more than we could handle outpatient and told him he had to go into the hospital. he was in total denial and was scared of going inpatient. He did not want to go, and I have tried to talk him into this many times over the past couple months and he flat out refused. We had to get on the highway to get to the hospital and he was freaking out the whole time. I agreed to take him to his mother's house instead of the hospital but planned to call 911 once we were out of the car. On the way to her house we passed another hospital and without saying anything I pulled in, he again grabbed the wheel and we were swerving all over the parking lot. I threw it in park, pulled the keys out and jumped out of the car and screamed for help. An EMT came over and got him to go inside. He was diagnosed with major depression, severe, single episode and after 9 hours was transported to a intensive observation unit at another hospital. The crisis worker at the ER spent hours talking with us and by the time he was transported he had become calm, talkative, his sense of humor returned, he was smiling, joking, he had a postive attitude, it was like he was back! What happend? Can someone snap out of it just like that? They did not give him any medication. I saw him today and talked to him several times on the phone, he is bored and overly anxious to come home, but not crazy! Is he faking so he can get out of the hospital? Is this going to wear off? They only plan on keeping him for 3 to 5 days, it that enough time to get stabilized? He is very focused on getting out of there and I am afraid that he will return to the way he was.

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