Depending on our history, we would have different situations, but experience them with more or less uneasiness. When I state something is relative, it means the context is similar but the individuals have different capacities.
An example would be the uneasiness one feels at a wedding. We could feel the same uneasiness as the royals at their wedding on friday, but they were groomed to meeting dignitaries and large groups of people, although the princess was not from a royal family.
What's relative is that I might be overwhelmed at their party, but they would be bored at my party, and there is a matter of scale and conditioning which is common.
So what is relative is the conditioning we experience. And the princess needed to learn very quickly, kissing a lot of frogs before she found a prince, but willing to bear that anxiety to change, as we can too!(although I'm not sure about risking getting worts from kissing frogs).
I have this huge smile on my face. As teenagers both me and my brother were a trial for our parents. My brother more so than me because I was younger and he set the stage and My parents used the knowledge to clip my wings before I could get in too much trouble. He ran away from home once and when he got older wrecked a motorcycle and still has the scars. He wrecked the family car. My parents never replaced it. He is happily married rolling in money and no longer drinks or smokes. Seems some of us just have to try it to know for ourselves. Part of that growing up thing probably. Lucky are the parents that don't go through this.
Do I have kids? No way they might have been just like me. :-)
It good to hear that your older son is starting to come around..His example can will be good for the younger ones..
I remember how hard it is to raise children and I did worry a lot when my son was growing up..He is turning forty next month and he has turned out to be a very husband, father and a great man..
It does take time for them to learn and grow up, but take comfort in knowing that it does get better..
Yes the teenagers really do test you, they know everything and the adults know nothing according to them. I think my older son is starting to listen a bit more but he is on the fence toppling some days
I think I am used to all the goings on with three kids but sometimes it gets too much. I got three calls from the school today. One for each of the boys getting kicked out of class for a silly reason. It is the end of the year and they are doing silly stuff that keeps getting them in trouble. Then the third call was for one of them changing a check so they could get lunch. It was made out to another department in the school so he figured it would be OK.
My older brother's situation is bothering me too, I love my Sister in law and can't believe he is leaving her, obviously I don't live with them so I don't know the whole story but it breaks my heart. This is the first divorce in my family, maybe that is why it hit so hard.
I had quit smoking for three months and that lessened the anxiety for me but when Billy was in the hospital for his burns I started again. Now I have to quit again and I am a bit mad at myself for starting, it isn't like it made the burns any better.
Sounds like a lot has been going on lately! Thank goodness your sons are ok after all of the accidents that happened recently.
Your concern regarding the upcoming prom is very reasonable considering all of the recent accidents. How do you think you can alleviate this anxiety? What have you done so far to set some ground rules and make your son accountable for his actions during prom?
Glad to hear your job is going well! How are you celebrating or being present to this positive?
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