On my list of things I could do without is: family. I haven't seen my family of origin during the holidays for years. I will hang out with families of my friends. They still bicker, but I can be detached from other people's family drama. In fact, I think I kind of serve as a buffer, reducing direct conflict for some of them.
We’ve all seen the movies of the picture perfect holiday dinner. If only this were reality! Unfortunately, many of us have family issues that can make holiday parties a stressful event forcing us to go back to some of our old unwanted behaviours or fill the day with horrible emotions.
To help make the holiday a happier time of year try to compose a list with your family of all of the things that have to be done to have a happy and stress free day. Include things that have to be done, what would be nice and what you can live without. Once you’ve created this list, try delegating tasks amongst family members. Some people like to cook, others clean, kids usually love wrapping presents and decorating. Spread the weight of the seasons work to all family members.
If family members don’t get along, remember that you are not responsible for everyone’s happiness. Try to encourage team work to make the day as pleasurable as possible.
Members, any tips for dealing with family stress on the special day?
