Hi Sue, Gina and everyone. Thanks for your replies. My nurse-practioner told me to buy a over the counter urine test "Menocheck" it came up negative, which is not good, that would of explained all the symptoms I have been having, I guess I am not in perimenopause after all, so all these headaches dizziness cramping and cycle changes are something else. All night and day I have been thinking its cervical cancer or a brain tumor{my Mother had one and died young} My panic and anxiety are raging, I am trying to tell myself its PMS and eyestrain from the computer and reading but then all the thoughts creep back, I actually think I am dying of a terrible illness, and the whoosing in my ear is worse, I just feel so bad I can barely make it out of bed, sometimes I feel this is NO way to live and I so want to be healthy but it is not possible, my husband cannot believe someone can feel so sick and bad and still be alive, I wonder that myself, I was so hoping the urine test would come up positive for the perimenopause hormone but it did not, I am so sick and tired of being sick and tired! I even thought I might be pregnant which would be bad at my age! How do others get through these bad times? I have tried praying and thinking positive but to no avail, I am even avoiding my son and husband because I look and feel so bad, I just want to crawl into bed and sleep, I still manage to walk 30 minutes a night, that helps a little. Thanks for listening. Deb.