My son quit his job right after I loaned him $3000. to help him buy a 4500.00 motorcycle. He called me today to take him to get some food. On the way to Taco Bell, we got in an argument about his motorcycle insurance, how long he has been off work, etc. He makes the comment, "you never do anything for me". I was sooo mad I made him get out of my car and left him at the taco bell. How dare he say that when he doesn't have a pot to p$^% in and I am taking him to buy him some food. People are so unimportant to him..only in what they can do for him. He has a narcissistic personality. Last week was my birthday and he did not even call me.. blah, blah,blah. Anyway, I am going to try and get through to him in a letter. Maybe I will feel better after it is written and delivered. My sister..it is tooooo long of a story. Thanks for the circles Rusty.
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My Milage:
My Quit Date: 5/26/2007 Smoke-Free Days: 385 Cigarettes Not Smoked: 9,625 Amount Saved: $2,406.25 Life Gained: Days: 53 Hrs: 18 Mins: 20 Seconds: 27
I know that feeling. It's when you are playing a tape recording in your head and it goes around and around and it seems like you can't find the "off" button. It's about allowing your mind to continue that litany of negative stuff, that list that goes on and on about how other people should be. It's the story we tell ourselves over and over. It's tough to fight that. But you can. Here's something that helps me -- I take it out and read it every now and then.
In the movie "Zorro," there's a swordsman's
circle, and Zorro instructs his disciple: "You stay in your circle.
Don't go outside that circle for any reason whatsoever, because if
you'll stay in your circle, what you need will come to you, and then
because you have remained in your circle, you will be able to deal with
it on your terms." It's a spiritual metaphor. Not going outside your
circle means staying in the space of your own life! You leave the other
person's space alone. It's not your business! They can't learn the
lesson their space provides them, the truth that's there if you are in
their circle pushing on it! And not only that, the only reason you are
in theirs is because you can't bear being alone in your own circle.
Stay in the circle, don't go out, and you'll see that fantastic things
happen.
Rusty
My Milage:
My Quit Date: 12/13/2004 Smoke-Free Days: 1279 Cigarettes Not Smoked: 65,229 Amount Saved: $14,676.53 Life Gained: Days: 114 Hrs: 3 Mins: 45 Seconds: 42
There is no doubt that you have turned that corner and now what lies ahead is just another one of those pestty tests. You know how to avoid, distract, to not dwell else you would be a puffin right now..Calm yourself as ALL, I repeat All urges disapate. Sleep on it, compose yourself, wait a day before you email
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My Milage:
My Quit Date: 1/22/2006 Smoke-Free Days: 874 Cigarettes Not Smoked: 15,732 Amount Saved: $5,112.90 Life Gained: Days: 160 Hrs: 4 Mins: 36 Seconds: 6
I am having some problems with my 22 year old son. I haven't spoken to one of my sisters for 2 years and we are starting to try and get our relationship back together, (via e mail; but it is better than not speaking at all). These two topics are always on my mind. It is so stressful; what should i say? how should I say it? what situations should I bring up? should I just let it all go instead of confronting? I have to spend alot of time thinking..and I am getting alot of cravings to smoke. I know that it will not help me think any better. Maybe I am just looking for comfort. I am sitting down to write my 22 year old son a letter right after this. We just seem to argue when we try and talk in person. I am taking alot of deep breaths, I went to yoga class today...it has been very difficult for over a week. But, thank goodness, I think that I am finally to the place in my quit where I actually will not smoke. I have never come this far before. I am so thankful for that.
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My Milage:
My Quit Date: 5/26/2007 Smoke-Free Days: 385 Cigarettes Not Smoked: 9,625 Amount Saved: $2,406.25 Life Gained: Days: 53 Hrs: 18 Mins: 0 Seconds: 32
