Hi there Rose,
You are VERY VERY lucky. Please go and give your wife a great big hug for all of us. Very few people have the patience or understanding to even WANT to TRY to understand our situation, I am thrilled to hear that your support is as such. I have certainly had my fair share of people who think it is all in my head and refuse to show ANY kind of compassion, nor try to understand, and unfortunately, many of them are part of my nuclear family. My husband on the other hand is very good with me. He gives me whatever control I need at the moment and doesn't look down or give me that shameful look ever. I can't say he would ever go out of his way to read up on things or try to get more of a an understanding, but his efforts are definitely appreciated, and I know he is trying to be patient and for me, that is good enough.
So, I agree with sky. Should your wife find herself needing encouragement or understanding, come join us. I personally, would be happy to help out if I can.
Peace,
Danielle