Hi Miss. I don't know everything that is going on in your life, so I'm not sure I can be much help, but I'm going to put in my two cents anyway. First and foremost the "dealing with your condition" is going to have to be a part of your "normal" relationship. In time hopefully you'll be able to get your PAs under control and do things like go for drives or even get on a plane. From what I understand though its going to take time - it's not going to be a quick fix and it sounds as though he's trying to hurry you along both in your "recovery" and your relationship with him. Please don't let him do this!!! Right now it is very important that you take your time and make good decisions. Making bad ones will only reenforce you negative feelings and increade your anxiety. I'm not trying to be offensive, but if he's your soul-mate why is he not doing some research of his own and attempting to understand your "condition"? Almost 2 years ago I started having problems with anxiety, however because I didn't have true panic attacks it took over a year to diagnose. For about six months it was believed that I had MS. The man I had been with for over a year (and known for 5) stood by me and attempted to understand. He would ask me to do things he knew I couldn't (because he "forgot", or "thought maybe things had changed"). He would try to sympathize and I alway felt that I should consider myself lucky to have such a wonderful guy. Well, now it's a year later and we've discovered that I have anxiety and it's all "in my head". He can't understand that while it is in my head the symptoms I experience are very real. I've asked him to look at websites that explain it and he dutifully reads them, but I discovering now that he'll never be able to empathize. He will never really get it and he has said to me that he misses the person I used to be. I want to be that person, but right now I'm not and I'm not sure if that person will ever be me again. The worst part of all this is I love him so much. We've bought a house together and he's talking about the "M" word. But now I'm realizing that he is not helping me, infact I beginning to wonder if he's not exasperating (sp?) the issue. My point is this: I'm not sure your guy is as understanding as he thinks he is an

I've met someone really special and I just told him about my "condition".(panic attacks,anxiety,some agorabphobia) He was VERY supportive. I explained that I take Xanax when it gets bad. He listened to how I feel and wanted to know why I am not on any medication? I explained about SSRI's and how I've tried a couple (Paxil, Lexapro, Zoloft) All they did was give me panic attacks and I couldn't get through the starter side-effects! I see a CBT, a psycologist and a accupuncturist once a week. He recently found out that his job wants to transfer him to another state, I am really upset. I would move for him in a heartbeat if I wasn't so bad off with anxiety, I can't even drive more than 20miles away from my apt. now. How could I move? I am in love with this man. He is thinking about looking for another job and figuring out a way to stay here FOR ME, but he is worried about my "condition" . He needs to know more and maybe he'll understand. He was asking lots of questions.. He wanted to know when, or IF this would pass (I've had this cluster for 2 1/2years, I had one 10 years ago for 1 year, then it dissapeared for 6 years) He wanted to know why I can't do certain things, like go to the mall, go in cars with other people.. basically I can't do anything that requires me to have no control over a situation. I explanied that this is something that my mothers side of the family had and I'll probably be dealing with it on and off for my entire life. He asked about me having children, with my anxiety and if I could (I want to, I'm 30) I told him I want to, I just want to be better. He wants me to meet his family, they live about 2,000miles away. I haven't been on a plane in 15 years! He doesn't really get it that I can't just jump on a plane. He wants to know if we were together if we could have a "normal" relationship? I don't know? I told him I have good days and bad days... This situation is stressing me out, I am going to lose this guy because I can't "snap" out of it. I want this to go away, if he moves which is %80.. I'll never forgive myself for having this **** "problem". This is why I don't let anyone in my world, for fear that I can't do "normal" things and it isn't fair to them. I can't be that perfect girl... at least not right now. Knowing that, he will pro