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for 22 år siden 0 +0 / -0 173

Hi, Victoria, I am so happy foryou I have a cute story about when I first had to face my fears. IMy husband had been drafted into the Army, and my first son was about 1 week old. So we tried the Governor and all kinds of connections\but no deferrment. So, here I was, infant, no money coming in yet, and all this time on my hands. I had to stay home because of my son, so what to ddo? IMy neighbor helped me look in the paper, and we found a job seeling brooms and mops over the phone. I got that job,and on my very first call, I froze! This big mouth could not utter a word. What to do? My neighbor told me one thing, and it has stuck with me all these years. She said "Worst comes to worst, hang up..but remember this: They cannot see you..it is a telephone." She was right and that was all I needed to hear and I was fine. Think about it..the telephone..no one can see you, they cannot touch you, you can be aanyone you want to be..what can they do?They can't check on you. (This was many years ago..no caller ID). So I was on my way to selling brushes on the phone. That was, indeed, a giant step for this panic stricken new mother. You have taken a giant step by calling your doctor...please don't forget to fill us in..let us know you are OK, please?The telephone thing, as I call it, will be ok, when you feel stronger. That is going to come real soon. You will be able to do this, when you come to grips with this disorder. Reda all you can, for thee is nothing like education. When you understand that you are not alone, then you feel better.All of us hre at this site have similar problems. Some have worked thru their problems, some are stuck in the middle and need to move forward, and some are beng pro-active. That involves dedication to assuring understanding of the disorder, and taking the necessary steps to work thru what ever it is that is holding them back. We are here for you. Red

for 22 år siden 0 +0 / -0 14

Hi Red, Thanks for the input. Since your message I have made an appointment with my family doctor. Thanks for all the great advise. I have learnd a lot about myself and my anxiety disorder over the past month :). I truly feel that I am now taking steps forward to better myself and my family. Victoria

for 22 år siden 0 +0 / -0 173

[size=4]"We are what and where we are because we have first imagined it....[/size] _ _Donald Curtis

for 22 år siden 0 +0 / -0 173

PS: Have you been to the doctor to discuss this? Have you discussed a medication to help you get "over the hump"? Red ;)

for 22 år siden 0 +0 / -0 173

Hi, Victoria. I, too, had this problem and found that my thinking was the biggest drawback to the sutuation. A friend told me that you have to think of yourself as "equal" or "better" than the people who will interview you. Maybe you could do an Internet Search on Google, and look for "self-Esteem" sites. The are full of info on how to think of yourself as "Number 1", and explanations on "How To" stuff. I read lots of stuff frim those sites. I even get "Positive Quote of The Day", which starts each day for me with some positivity. I need it. There is also "inspirational" reading that helps a lot. Faith can do wonders. Please try to remember that you are the same as the interviewers..no different, just have to overcome these feelings of "scared' and what all goes with it. Hang in there and read ! Red :)

for 22 år siden 0 +0 / -0 11

Way to go Victoria! Your proactiveness gives me inspiration. I think I'll follow your lead and concentrate of baby steps. Thanks!

for 22 år siden 0 +0 / -0 14

I have been calling local agencies to help me find a job....like a headhunter. I have a lot of leads, but just ignore the calls. My children are 13 and 18. I am feeling a bit better. Taking each day at a time Thanks Victoria

for 22 år siden 0 +0 / -0 24

What kind of work are you applying for? Most places ask you to drop off a resume and then if they're interested, they'll call you for an interview. Is your resume up to date? If you don't have one, a local employment office might help you with that. If it's the thought of leaving the safety of the house to plunge back into the workplace, I wonder if adding a preparation step to it, like volunteering at the Cancer Society might help to ease you into it? There are so many places that could use your help, even if it's for a little while. There you would meet a few other volunteers and get some people confidence back, if that's what's nagging at you?

for 22 år siden 0 +0 / -0 198

Dear Victoria, What exact fear makes you hang up the phone? How old are your children? I want to help, Maria

for 22 år siden 0 +0 / -0 14

My biggest concern is to get out of this house and get into the real world! When I just get the nerve to pick up th phone to call for an interview I hang up. I feel like a failure, and my children are now seeing this and I am afraid that it is going to reflect on them.

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