Welcome,
I am sorry to hear what you have been going through. Having fears around breathing sounds very scary. Have you talked to your doctor about your concerns? Having more evidence to disprove your fears may help to alleviate them. Also, have you thought about speaking to a counselor about this? As this is effecting your life so often it might be a good idea to get help in taking control of the anxiety now.
It concerns me that you say sometimes you think you can't do this anymore. It is normal to have those thoughts and feelings when we are struggling but it is important to not deal with this alone. If you ever have those thoughts again I encourage you to call the crisis line in your area. They have people there who can work through grounding exercises with you and help support you emotionally. Also, if you ever have serious thoughts of harming yourself please call 911 or tell someone you trust. Please don't be alone in those very scary feelings.
In controlling the anxiety, relaxation techniques and working on challenging your anxious thought will help with practice. What relaxation techniques have you tried or are considering trying? When we are very anxious we have less ability to think rationally; so, it is important to relax first before we start trying to change our thinking. When you are a bit calmer try working through these questions:
10 Questions that Help Fight Anxious Thoughts
1. Is it "true"?
2. How do I know it’s true?
3. Is the anxious thought 100% true? (Something less than 100% true is not true)
4. What's the evidence for it being true?
5. What's the evidence against it being true?
6. Has it ever happened before?
7. What's different now?
8. How bad would it really be?
9. What's the worst thing that could happen?
10. If the worst thing happened, how bad would it really be?
Also, ask yourself what advice would you give to a friend if they were going through the same thing? I find it surprising how many people have the answers within themselves but often do not give themselves the same amount of compassion as we give our friends and loved ones.
What are your thoughts on all this? It has been a few days since you posted last. How are you feeling today?
Ashley, Health Educator