Hello notaclue, welcome to our site. I'm glad to see that you decided to join in on the forum, and that this has sparked a conversation with your wife.
You can feel free to come here and vent or talk, or just listen anytime you need to. As Rebbie mentioned, we do have a program that is useful and can provide some guidance and insight. Let us know if you have the chance to take a look, read through it and do some of the homework.
We are always here for support and knowledge and look forward to hearing from you.