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for 17 år siden 0 +0 / -0 3043

hi deedee I am a mom of two. A nine yr old boy "Tiger" and a 4 year old girl "Tiamat". My boyfriend of 18 years is also my husband of 11 years. There are days when I think that I am the worst possible mother. How can I teach my youngsters to become healthy happy adults when I cannot feel the least pleasure for a moment. How can they know I love them when I cannot endure to be touched, and surrounded; I want to be alone. I want space and isolation. And in better times I know that I am sensitive to their needs. I give them what they need because they are happy with me. They like to be with me and when I am not well, they give me a quick hug and let me be with me needs... alone in my room with a book. alone to shop and walk. alone to think and alone with my self-help group. My husband does not have my illness. He has learned over the years how to listen. He has learned what I need. I have learned what he needs. We do not compromise. Their is always someone completely happy and the other who is willing to give in on an issue. My husband has always supported me and allows me to find my way. If I want to try therapie... if I want forum discussions,... if I want groups... if I need time... I am spoiled in this way. He has let me learn about myself and has let me learn to function with this illness. I am bipolar. My first step in finding help was to find out what I needed help with. My anxiety was draining all my energy so I dealt with that first. My fears and obsessions are very distracting so I had to learn how those functioned. Now I am learning about my depression. Why is there a spirial of negative thoughts. How, and when they are triggered and how to replace these thought patterns... I am lucky to have a lot of resources here. I have psys, and groups, and meds and the forum. I hope we can share and exchange some experiences.

for 17 år siden 0 +0 / -0 1

Hello Deedee, I am new here but hope to get on my way to a less-depressed me in the time it takes to do the program. I also feel so guilty for being depressed and having kids. It makes sense that reaching out to work on this will help, I know from experience just ignoring that I'm unhappy with staying depressed only magnifies the problem. Best wishes to you :)

for 17 år siden 0 +0 / -0 8760

Deedee, If you're looking for daily support, do feel free to use our forums. For support from other mothers, you may want to contact your local mental health center. Depression is more common among mothers than you may think and as such there may be some mommy groups you can join. Danielle, Bilingual Support Specialist

for 17 år siden 0 +0 / -0 3

heh guys i am ok thank you all for your helpful responses, it feels like no one understands my friends have shyed away because i am not my usual cheerful self and i have become so inward and shy and i always feel so gulity because i am a mother of 3 iand feel this is unfair to them!! my husband doesnt understand. how can i find support? ifeel alone help!!

for 17 år siden 0 +0 / -0 3043

deedee -- what direction do you need help ..?

for 17 år siden 0 +0 / -0 3043

hi deedee, the whole gang is here and waiting for you. we have all different life experiences so between the whole of us we might be able to give you a new direction to think in...

for 17 år siden 0 +0 / -0 1890

Deedee, where are you? Are you alright? Talk to us here...

for 17 år siden 0 +0 / -0 12049

deedee, Welcome to our support community and please look around. We have the tips, tools and program for you, to assist you every step of the way! As you can see the members are very supportive and can be of great assistance to you. Take the time to take the depression test and use this to discuss with your doctor, areas of concerns, and to help assess the situation for you both. We look forward to hearing from you :) Josie, Support Specialist

for 17 år siden 0 +0 / -0 1890

Deedee, Welcome to the site Deedee. It is a wonderful group of people like you and I and you can always come online here and talk to whoever is on the IM or just read the posts and then post yourself to the discussion topics... the counsellors are always there with help and advice... Are you a single mother or is it just that you feel alone and finding it way-hard to handle three children while trying to cope with your depression? Nomatter what your circumstances , the fact that you are suffering badly right now is a good reason to come in here and just talk about your problems. When you've become comfortable with the other members, and they're easy to love and respect here, then you can turn your attention to the Cognitive Behaviour Therapy that is at the core of this programme; it really helps and you can discuss the bits and pieces of it and how you are doing as you go along from module to module right here where we are listening and know well what you're battling with. Please talk, talk, talk as much and as often as you can and read what the other members tell you about their experiences with your same problems. For myself I remember trying to cope with my eight yr old son week-on and week-off when I got divorced long ago - I was so messed up in depression and trying to end years of abusing alcohol that I was inside-out and yet I had to feed him and be his companion and his father and his storyteller and his driver to school and skiing and so I know how hard that was for me -- yet you have THREE kids to do all that for... Be strong as you can be. Have you found a therapist - someone to talk to in a group maybe? Have you been diagnosed with depression by a doctor?? Tell us more about your circumstances and don't be alone or silent when you can come in here and talk to us... Welcome Deedee

for 17 år siden 0 +0 / -0 3

Hello i am new to the group ND NEW TO ONLINE SUPPORT I NEED HELP I AM A MOTHER OF THE 3 nd suffering with depression and feel alone ND LIKE NO ONE UNDERSTANDS PLEASE HELP

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