Thank you so much Vickers!!!
I am grateful to be here and to have found you all.
I have told my husband that he does not understand me, but I have asked him to accept me....maybe one day he will be more understanding and supportive...but I am happy to have found you all:-)
How are you feeling?
Hope you are having a great weekend!!
Best,
B
Hey Sotired!
I'm glad you're still hanging in there! I know that it gets hard, especially when you feel like noone understands. It's especially hard when that someone is your spouse! I've had this for about 12 years now and it's only been the last year or so that my husband has tried being more supportive and understanding. We still have days where he tells me things like, "you're just doing this to yourself." But, he is getting better. When he gets like that I tell him, "I know you can't possibly understand what I'm going through so all I ask is that you pretend to." I know it gets hard but I truly hope you know that you're not alone because we are here for you!
I know 'mental illness' is still 'taboo' for many people...I was generalizing about my community where depression and anxiety are not addressed....in my grandmother's case -- they said that she became depressed because someone had put something in her food...it's denying the possibility that she was not well...this was back in India in the late 1950s...
Hi Vickers,
Thank you so much!!
I am doing better....some days are good and some not so good....I know that my husband may never understand, but I asked him to just accept me for me...I see that he is trying...but sometimes I do feel lonely...and alone...but I am hanging in there and trying to keep busy...I am also talking to my husband about what is going on...but he does not want to see a counsellor or a doctor -- he doesn't want to talk about how he feels about what's going with me nor does he seem to want to talk about him...
"Anxiety/Panic Attacks/Phobias" are not talked about in my culture...although they exist but people tend to ignore them...it is new for my husband...my mother has been great...she even read some pages from an anxiety and panic attack book I have...and she knows the information about the meds I am taking and I have also emailed her information from this website....But I do wish my husband took some interest....
I guess I just have to take it day by day!!
Thank you so much Vickers for caring:-) And the responses really helped...
Hope you are well and having a great weekend...Let me know how you are...
Thank you,
B