Diva,
my sympathies to you, your family and relatives!
What I want to tell you is that...you should be lucky that in your life you've had a chance to meet a person like your grandmother! And she definately was and is a great person!
God sends us our dearest ones for some period that only He knows and we should thank Him for it.
Your grandmother will always be in your memories and some day you will meet her again...
I have learned when I woke up this morning (from a phone message from my mom) that my grand-Mother has passed last night during the night. They say that thankfully she passed clamly in her sleep. I am glad that she did not suffer. I will miss her.
Thank you all for your support and encouragement.
-Diva
Hi,
I just wanted to say how sorry I am to hear of your Grandmother's illness. Whenever I've posted something you have always been so encouraging so I hope you can come to grips with your Grandma's illness.
I don't have any tips to share, but when my grandfather was dying the most rewarding thing I found was sitting by his bed and trying to comfort him. As much as it hurt to see him like that, being able to see those brief glimpses of pleasure in his eyes at my being there, eventually, made his passing easier. It also made me feel like I had helped him when he needed it most.
I hope that helps.
Tallglassofwater
Dear Diva,
I think it is so important to remember all the good we have with our loved ones. Those treasured moments are the ones that count. I did not go see my Grandma in the hospital before she passed either because that is not how I ever want to remember her. For others they need that closure but I did not feel the need for it. My beliefs are that I will see her again so that helps me to cope. It was nice to read of the memories you have of her.
So take care of yourself and hold on tight to those memories.
Diva it's never rambling when you're talking about the wonderful things about your loved ones. Remembering all their wonders is what makes them live on. I've lost all my grandparents, and seeing them in the hospital never made me feel good about them. That's not how I wanted to remember them. They were always so full of life, and seeing them laying in a hospital bed just wasn't right. I'm sure your grandmother knows how much you love her. And even though she's in a coma, you can still go see her. She'll know you're there. But don't force yourself to go if you're really not up to it. An 8-hour trip and then the hospital might be too much. Just keep thinking about all the wonderful things you remember about her.
I am feeling sad about all this. And guilty for not going up there to say goodbye to her in person. I have trouble with hospitals especially when I know someone is most likely dying. I am afraid of mortality. I didn't go see any of my grand-parents in the hospital. My grandmother she is the last of my grand-parents. I am just glad that she had a nice long life. she is a real tough lady. She went through a lot in her days but she is a survivor. She has character! And she is stylish and always beautiful. I have seen pictures of her at my age and on those photographs she looks like a movie star. She also has a great singing voice. She used to sing old songs as she cleaned when my mom was a child. She did it too when I was younger. Even at her last birthday she sang. She knows all the lyrics to all the best songs. Anyway, sorry for just rambling. Guess it is just my way of coping with this. thanks for listening.
-Diva
