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for 20 år siden 0 +0 / -0 37

thanks for all your great replies, i'm glad to see i'm not going thru this alone! Grace your story made me laugh so hard, i was about to pea my pants, i needed that thanks!! just the other morning i called him at work and said i need you to come home, i need to go to the ER room i think i'm having a heart attack, he said oh honey come on you're 35 yrs. old you've had every test done, you're fine lay down and relax- i thought oh my god, i'm going to die and he's telling me to lay down- but he was right the attack went away, and i was fine but then of course, i had to analyze well what if something really did happen and he's not here? i wish i could just let these thoughts go!! anyways, tomorrow is another day- i hope everyone has a good one- look forward reading some more thoughts from everyone!!

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Hi, I have to say I have seen both sides, my ex didn't understand what was going on and didnt want to bother....but then I guess if I look at my whole relationship it was really that way with everything...sometimes ladies these things are signs. I was lucky enought to find a very gentle and caring man who actually has anxiety himself, no panic though...so he completely understands what I am going through and we help each other. They say more women than men have this disorder but the fact is that men just dont admit it or realize it as much...ever tried getting a man to go to the doctor for anything? ...it is very important to have a good support system in order for you to get better.

for 20 år siden 0 +0 / -0 109

What would you like him to do? Does he know what you'd like him to do? I've called my in the midst of a panic telling him I feel something is really wrong with me and I'm scared and I feel like I'm dying and blah blah blah and he'll say to me "look calm down its probably just another one of your panic attacks..." I don't know what else he can say really because he's been through it as many times as me and it IS or at least it was...

for 20 år siden 0 +0 / -0 377

Well no, not really. He understands I have this problem but he can not relate. He is the most layed back person in the world. He says "Just relax" and i want to scream in his face "I can't I am dying!!" I think he tries to ignore it more than face it.

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I dont have a husband, but i have had people in my life who didnt understand. My last boyfriend who i was with for a year took it upon himself to educate himself about panic disorder, and we watched a few videos about it together. Whenever we were in a store and i would get an attack, he'd tell me to squeeze his hand to get thru it. If i had to be uncomfortable, he wanted to be also. Most of my family has been not so supportive. I think that they try to understand, but none of them have actually picked up a book and read up on it or asked me to explain it to them. For the first 2 yrs they told me i was faking to get attention. It's hard to get thru this alone and even harder when the ones you love doubt your sanity so to speak. The best thing to do is to educate them. Get a book or print something out and say "if you love me the way you say you do, then read this... bc this is a part of who i am". Basically thats what it comes down to. You arent defined by your disorder, but it does become a part of who you are.

for 20 år siden 0 +0 / -0 57

i also have the most wonderfull supportive husband in the world he is my rock and he understands that this is a real problem and im not making it up. i have been with him for 16 years and was always easy going and on the go when this hit this past summer and i stopped my life completely he knew something was wrong still to this day he is alwasys supportive and he also encourages me to try things (movies, shopping,etc..) without his little pushes i would not be where i am today

for 20 år siden 0 +0 / -0 109

Mind doesn't understand per se but is very supportive. I feel bad sometimes because I put him through heck when I was at my worst and couldn't do anything by myself. It must have been very difficult for him and I'm sure it is now considering it is a very difficult thing for someone to understand who has no clue what we're going through. However he knows and I know nobody can really help me but myself.

for 20 år siden 0 +0 / -0 49

Hi Cassie. I can understand how you are feeling. My ex was the same, he thought I was 'weird' and told me also to snap out of it. Like you say if only it were that easy. Unfortunately I can't offer you any advice as I didn't figure out a way to make people understand it....I wish I could help. Back then I was embarassed of my panic disorder but now, on my good days, I like to think of it as making me stronger in life and look at it as a big learning curve - mind you its difficult to keep that attitude on my bad days. I can understand how difficult it is not having the support form your partner. Luckily I'm out of that situation now. I really wish I could offer you advice but all I can say is stay strong, be proud of yourself and don't let anyone put you down! My thoughts are with you..take care. :)

for 20 år siden 0 +0 / -0 57

No support for me from my hubby. No, no, couldn't have that. Like so many other people he doesnt understand and I don't think he really cares to. He just yells at me for being rediculous and says I should just stop doing what Im doing and take care of myself. I should just get over all of this.. YA IF IT WERE ONLY THAT EASY! I can't give you any advise since I can't make my own husband help me. I have sent him articals and web pages about whats going on with me he claims to have read them but I doubt it.

for 20 år siden 0 +0 / -0 49

Hi Jackie. I'm engaged to be married sometime this year. I have the most WONDERFUL partner. Boyfriends that I've had in the past were very judgemental and I tried to hide my panic and anxiety where I could because I felt stupid. But from day one my partner that I have now has understood. He is truely a remarkable person. He helps out where ever he can mainly with the food shopping as I flip out in supermarkets. He takes me out every night to make sure I get out of the house and whenever we go into shops he knows exactly when I've had enough and very calmly steers me towards the door - he also knows when I need a little push to go into a shop. When I have a big panic attack he'll just sit and comfort me till I've calmed down. Right now I'm not working so he's the income earner but he doesn't care a bit he always says that he just wants me to be happy and if going out to work is going to make me worse and cause to much stress then he'd rather I didn't do it but if I can do it then that's great. He has never put me down or called me a name. All I can say is that I am so incredibly lucky to have someone like him although I know that he is a rare breed. He's one of the only people that has really understood! Anyway I will stop babbling now I just can't say enough how wonderful he is!!! :)

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