Phil is right. Sometimes when we get sauce we say things that are hurtful. ( I am the queen of it, that is why I don't drink much anymore.) Also when people are upset, words can sting. The phrase Sticks and stones may break bones but words can't hurt me. Yeah not so when you love someone.
Just forgive him in heart, tell him you are sorry, let bigons be bigon. Just don't smoke, or let this make you want to.
Grace
Explain to him that the rude and nasty comments have made you upset. I am sure you already aplogized but explain to him he hurt your feelings. I betcha he will apologize for his actions. Sometimes men forget us females need them to own up to their mistakes too.
HUGZ!!
[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B] 9/21/2006
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 40
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 405
[B]Amount Saved:[/B] $80
[B]Life Gained:[/B]
[B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 13 [B]Mins:[/B] 43 [B]Seconds:[/B] 5
Hi Guys. I just wanted to post my feelings today. I'm feeling really blue. My husband and I had a huge fight on the weekend. We never raise our voices at each other - we are truly each others best friend. But we had too much to drink on Friday and I said something cheeky about his mom. He totally flipped. We've talked it through but he said some nasty things that are sticking with me and I cant seem to shake this awful gloomy feeling. I really dont have any urge to smoke. I just feel hopeless today...thanks for listening
[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/11/2006
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 112
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,349
[B]Amount Saved:[/B] $672
[B]Life Gained:[/B]
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thanks so much for replying guys. I was feeling really alone. I just really need to reach out and I'm at work so there's nobody to talk to about this right now.I'm so glad you understand and thankyou for the terrific advice. Despite earlier thoughts of smoking to get back at him, I most definitely will not pick up a cigarette. I do know it will only make things worse...
[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/11/2006
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 112
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,349
[B]Amount Saved:[/B] $672
[B]Life Gained:[/B]
[B]Days:[/B] 8 [B]Hrs:[/B] 0 [B]Mins:[/B] 3 [B]Seconds:[/B] 35
I really appreciate all your kind words of encouragement! I really am feeling much better . I cant wait for him to get home so we can snuggle up and put this behind us.
[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/11/2006
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 112
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,351
[B]Amount Saved:[/B] $672
[B]Life Gained:[/B]
[B]Days:[/B] 8 [B]Hrs:[/B] 0 [B]Mins:[/B] 21 [B]Seconds:[/B] 40
Feeling much better ...thanks so much guys. You were right. We talked it through and made up thoroughly. Feeling back to normal and much happier. Its a good lesson for going easy on the sauce huh. :)
[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/11/2006
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 114
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,374
[B]Amount Saved:[/B] $684
[B]Life Gained:[/B]
[B]Days:[/B] 8 [B]Hrs:[/B] 3 [B]Mins:[/B] 35 [B]Seconds:[/B] 46
Kiss and make up, life's too short for this. Enjoy your smoke free life and on with the quit. One day at a time. Marie
:)
[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B] 6/13/2006
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 140
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,106
[B]Amount Saved:[/B] $560
[B]Life Gained:[/B]
[B]Days:[/B] 18 [B]Hrs:[/B] 12 [B]Mins:[/B] 27 [B]Seconds:[/B] 32
Hannaher,
Thanks for the update, glad you were able to work things out. Reward yourself for handling this situation well and staying smoke free!
Danielle
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{{{{{HUGS}}}}} Not sure what to add. Time is a great healer. Thanks for sharing, you did come to the right place. :)
[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/16/2006
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 15
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 156
[B]Amount Saved:[/B] $45
[B]Life Gained:[/B]
[B]Days:[/B] 2 [B]Hrs:[/B] 1 [B]Mins:[/B] 53 [B]Seconds:[/B] 29
