Monica: I'm so sorry you lost your father -- I lost mine in January and it was very, very tough. I can empathize.
My dad never smoked and always nagged me -- even with Alzheimer's, he could still pantomine smoking, frown at me and waggle a finger. I know he's proud of me that I finally did it.
When you can get through the kind of stress you're under without a smoke, that speaks volumes to your inner strength. It also reinforces that having a cigarette will in no way reduce the stress -- in fact, it will only make it worse.
You're so strong -- keep the faith, sister. You'll be foremost in my thoughts tomorrow.