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Please keep responding. Reading about all of the different, but successful experiences is really helping me out a lot. Yesterday evening, my hubby and I sat down and had a heart to heart. We have chalked everything that is going on up to our quit smoking and our crazy schedule. (my hubby works 2 jobs and goes to college full time and we have 3 children) Approx 3 days a week we don't even see each other. Bottom line ... we are fine. Talking about it, means we have recognized what is going wrong and what needs to be done. That is half the battle. The more you guys can talk to me about this the better. The more I know what to possibly expect the easier it is. Thanks again for responding. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/12/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 31 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 944 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $124 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 2 [B]Hrs:[/B] 15 [B]Mins:[/B] 32 [B]Seconds:[/B] 1
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Who here quit smoking with their significant other? I need to read some posts about other people's experiences to maybe give me some insight into my own situation. My hubby and I have been together for about 13-15 years. Neither of us are perfect ... be we are good together. We quit smoking on the same day. We have been trying very hard to be patient and kind with one another during this process, but lately things have not been going very well at all. I don't know if it is him or me or both of us. I don't want to think the worst ... but I am feeling really insecure in my marriage. I have never felt this way and it is scaring me. I don't trust my feelings at the moment because of all the 'quitting changes' taking place in my life. If anyone would be kind enough to share their experiences I'd appreciate it. Because at this point I am scared that us not smoking could cause us to get a divorce. Because I can't deal with the emotional roller coaster that I think he puts me on. I really don't want to associate anything bad with not smoking anymore. So the thought of our quits interfering with our marriage, our family is really tearing me up. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/12/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 30 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 924 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $120 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 2 [B]Hrs:[/B] 14 [B]Mins:[/B] 10 [B]Seconds:[/B] 26
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Dear Breaking Free, I'll share my experience, but I'd imagine it's very different for everyone. Me & my hubby both stopped smoking on the same day (not for the first time). The first few weeks were a challenge for us. Perhaps because I'm a psychologist but I love to get to the emotional triggers/reasons for things and whatever I discover I share with David. At least he is polite enough to listen whether he is interested or not (LOL). One of the things I found with us is that we were both finding excuses/reasons to be cross and angry so that we could use it as an excuse to have a cigarette. (We didn't have one but! Oh the tricksy addiction!). As soon as I noticed this I put it to David that we have to be very careful about making up excuses to do that whole "I'm stressed out/You stress me out - I deserve a fag!" We need to be honest with our own emotions and take responsibility for them. And on that note, The best thing that I have found is that as an emotional smoker myself, I have had to drag my emotions kicking and screaming into the light to be dealt with in a grown up way (not my normal MO). Usually my way of dealing with emotions was to have a cigarette, then another, and then not think about it for a while, and then have another cigarette. Now that I'm living my emotions (or trying to) rather than turning my back on them I'm finding that I'm much more upfront with David and he is with me, but it is actually making us enjoy each other's company more. Sorry for such a long post. But this time the quit journey has been a pleasant surprise for me in this regard 'cause me & David have tried this before. And never before have we been able to cope so well emotionally. Sweetie, you didn't have a relationship with your partner because you both smoked, your relationship survived in spite of your smoking. An addict who is constantly looking for the next hit (as I was) is not completely emotionally engaged with life, let alone her partner. I wish that I could access the IM but I'm not on Windows 'cause there's a lot more I'd like to say but not in public. (((hugs))) alison [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/16/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 26 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 806 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $325 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/
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Breaking, From everything you have written, you and your husband seem to have a great relationship. You communicate very well and get through it all, thick and thin! :) I have faith in your smoke-less and happy lives ! Mira :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/15/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 28 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 572 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $98 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 2 [B]Hrs:[/B] 4 [B]Mins:[/B] 58 [B]Seconds:[/B] 19
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My husband and I decided to quit together and we've had a bumpy road already (We quit last Thursday and its only Monday morning). Yesterday we finally opened up the communication between us. We are finally doing this for ourselves and not feeling like we have to do it for the other person. It sure put things in perspective and now I WANT to continue on with my quit because I know I'm doing it because I want to and because I can! I also told him that he does not have to do this if he is not ready because he was angrier than I was and I finally got him to admit he was doing it because I was. I just sat him down and explained that it wont work unless he wants it for himself. I also said it was alright for him to continue smoking (I finally got over the if he does I will attitude) and knew I could overcome seeing my life partner smoking while I was changing my lifestyle. You and your husband need to keep the comunication open and continue to spend time alone together. My husband and I made it through our first weekend quiting by going on a weekend get-away (inexpensive) with just us two so we can keep the strong bond between us and learn to adjust to our new lifestyles. GOOD LUCK and keep on talking to one another!!! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 6/8/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 4 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 88 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $16 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 0 [B]Hrs:[/B] 9 [B]Mins:[/B] 18 [B]Seconds:[/B] 5
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Hi Breaking Free: My husband and I quit together (we've been with each other constantly for 14 years)! We both went for cold laser therapy. He said he could have smoked on the way home from there. I say we both could have smoked anytime after that. But we wanted to quit more than we wanted to smoke so that was not an option! The top three reasons were daughters #1, #2 & #3. They are growing up fast and they asked us quit long before we decided for ourselves we would. My husband is having a tougher time with his quit because with his job he is around smokers almost all day. I am never in contact with smokers unless I go outside and they are outside the building. So it's a brief encounter if at all. He also has a longer commute and must spend a lot more time in his car, which as we all know is a big trigger. Despite all that, we just try and keep our sprits up and talk things over. If it's a bad crave day, we day it and spill out some hard candy on the table while complaining. We mostly laugh things off - like our expanding waist lines! BUT - don't think at the beginning of this quit it was easy, we stayed busy doing puzzles together, playing games with the kids and renting movies while munching on carrot sticks. For me - it made it easier knowing I had someone sitting right next to me feeling the same way and who could understand how crappy I felt. There's a lot to be said for that whole "Misery Loves Company" thing!!! We were both so tired and irritable, we just went to bed early a lot (also to avoid eating constantly). Tempers flared now and then, but I have to say he is a really calm person, while I am hyper, so I had to do more physical things to rope myself in, whereas he would relax. I am also a more verbal person, so I am probably the winner in the complaint department. He doesn't seem to mind too much (used to it, lives w/ 4 females!) So if you need to stay in different parts of the house and work some things out (personal space I call it), then by all means, don't feel bad. Just say you need some time and take it!! There is a lot of changes and emotional feelings with you both right now. Don't make any drastic decisions about anything, just ride w/ the tide and things will get better, you're both doing something reall
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Well said Coben Fan. Only thing I might add is to keep talking, keep communicating. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/17/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 114 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,299 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $855 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 18 [B]Hrs:[/B] 17 [B]Mins:[/B] 38 [B]Seconds:[/B] 0
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You bet! Hubby and I quit together and we both said the night b4 we quit no matter what remember I love you! We had ups and downs it was alot easier for him than myself or least I was the one who acted out. but now we are stronger for sharing the experience together and very happy that we took the journey together. We now laugh together instead of smoking together. :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/31/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 377 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 7,552 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1696.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 38 [B]Hrs:[/B] 20 [B]Mins:[/B] 6 [B]Seconds:[/B] 13
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This would be a good thread for Walkingeagle and Attaboygirl to reply to. They are 1+ year quitters that did it together with grace and style. Hopefully, they will drop in and add their wisdom. Shevie [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/23/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 385 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 7,701 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1463 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 71 [B]Hrs:[/B] 18 [B]Mins:[/B] 49 [B]Seconds:[/B] 52
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Well, where do I begin? I can tell you a few things about this journey you're on. This is possibly one of the hardest things to beat, day after day, fighting the urge, that cig always there in your mind. It gets very tiring and alot of people just give up, and give in. I can say that it gets easier with time, but at first, that time seems to crawl. At this point in time, I can safely say that I don't think that my wife and I will ever smoke again. As for us, we were both ready to quit, had discussed it and set a date, and quit. We quit with our best friend couple ( he had a small stroke ) and things went pretty good til.. They went on vacation to Mexico, and came back smoking. We still hung in there for a while, but the stupid, lets just smoke tonight thinking set in. And we did it for a few times, just smoking once a week or so. But soon it was back to full fledge smoking. For me it was devasting, we had blown 2 months quit. So , we had a vacation to vegas coming up, so I said we'll smoke til we get back, then back to quitting, she agreed. Boy did we smoke , lol... There is no secret I guess. We used patches, inhalers as aides. They seemed to take the edge off. We got off the patches as soon as possible, but used the inhalers for 4 to 5 months. My doc. said he'd rather have my on those than cigs. Another thing is that we are both pretty calm natured, not high strung. I get tons of stress each day, but seem to just not let it get to me. Lucky I guess. Only one day at about 21 days quit, I just felt bonkers, told the Mrs. it's not you, I just need to go for a walk, I was having a bad craving, even looking at butts on the ground and wishing i had a lighter, errr. The walk didn't help, then a light bulb went off, put on a patch dumb-ass, duh. Then I was fine. Here's the best part. This keeps us focused on our quits. With less money than we used to spend on smoking, we bought a brand new RV pull behind trailer. I threaten her that if we smoke, it's back to tenting. Seems to be a good goal. I guess it boils down to keeping anger in check, take a second to respond to triggers, count to 10, keep communicating, come to the SSC for support. Just don't give up, it's so worth the effort. You have a great start on your quit, please don't gi
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